Originally posted on 08/01/12
“Constantly choosing the lesser of two evils is still choosing evil.” Jerry Garcia said that. I’m not sure of the context, or whether he meant this in a religious context. But I know that when we feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, maybe the solution should be to climb out from between them and get a little perspective. We often feel that we have only two or three bad choices, but that is often because we have lost objectivity. We are too emotionally involved, too scared, or too influenced by others. We’re bowing to the expectations of those around us or crumpling under the weight of our own expectations.
At times like these, we must ask ourselves this question: “Is there any other way to see this situation?”
Pulling someone else into the conversation can help. Let them ask you the question so you can concentrate on answering. And if you can’t see it another way, ask them, “Do YOU see my situation differently?”
Then be quiet and receive. Don’t judge the feedback. Don’t argue or defend. Be open to hearing about another perspective on your dilemma. When we are worn out emotionally, or when we feel there is a lot at stake, we lack objectivity. And the objectivity of another person may be just what we need to find that third and BEST choice. The one that isn’t an evil at all, but maybe a soft place to fall.